Monday, October 15, 2018

Let Me Tell You 'Bout My Best Friends...

My husband is my best friend, and my favorite human.... but long before I ever met him, I had my best girlfriends in the world.

I had met Beth and Tasha years ago, in college. We were classmates with the same major and so we almost always had the same classes. We were friends, but not like kind you hang out with regularly. One spring break,  there was a small group trip to Gatlinburg, and by the time we left, I knew I had made my lifelong friends.

We have seen each other through so many things. We don't have to talk every day to know that we are there...but I definitely think that as we have gotten older, and have had more life events, we talk more.  They are the most supportive, honest, funny, and both humble people you will ever meet. They both are hard workers, love their families and so smart it will amaze you!

As much as we have in common, we have many differences.

Beth is a farm girl, who is surrounded by cows, dogs, and the most beautiful farm land that you will ever see. It has often been my quiet place to go when my heart has been broken, or if I needed to just get away from my world for a little while.

Tasha is our traveler! She loves going to the beach, taking a cruise, and she is always on the move. I don't think she spends the weekends sitting at home, ever! Two beautiful children, and a husband that make up her world, she is also extremely close to her sister and parents.

These two women help make me a better women, wife, and friend. I honestly think more of them as my family (and, its nothing for each of us to invite the others to family events), than my friends, and I couldn't love them anymore if they were my sisters!

I know, with out a shadow of a doubt, that God himself picked these two to be my friends, and my sisters by choice!

The picture below is from my wedding in October 2017...it sums up our friendship perfectly...and is one of my favorite photos from our wedding.


and now for a more formal photo:


I hope that everyone can have friends as wonderful and special as these two!




Tuesday, October 2, 2018

Fall Bucket List

What are your favorite Fall ideas?

We always go to a pumpkin patch, and corn maize. Those are just two every year traditions. Every year I say I am going to host a Halloween party, and this year we actually have the space, but I think I am just going to participate in our church's Trunk or Treat.

 I want Steven and I to pick a theme and really go all out for it. I have 30 days to plan it, so I need to find a good theme and start getting the decorations together. I am thinking Mary Poppins and Burt? or Anne of Green Gables and Gilbert (which no one would get), or maybe even a character from Once Upon a Time. Not sure yet. I'm open to suggestions. Just as long as they aren't anything scary.

Here's our fall bucket list:

Corn Maize/Pumpkin patch/Hayride
Carving Pumpkins
Watch "The Wizard of Oz"
Go to a football game (We have our tickets! Go Vols!)
Head to the Peaks of Otter for some fall scenery and a picnic
Visit some fall festivals
Fall Camping?
Coffee by the fire pit...many times (will this weather ever cool down??)

I want to fill every weekend with something to celebrate my FAVORITE season.. what else should I add?

Sunday, September 30, 2018

What does a weekend look like for you? I am usually go, go , go, and getting my lists done. However, these last two weekends, I don't feel like doing anything. I make a list of things to do, and then I accomplish none of it. I don't know if I am just tired from the summer, or if the weather is changing and is just making me tired, or what.. but I have got to get on a ball! We have the holidays coming up and they are always a big deal for decorating and food preparations, so, the things I have planned, I need to get done.

The last two weekends, I drag myself out of bed, drink coffee, and lay around until football games come on.  Blah...

Today, we did manage to run some errands and do some laundry. But now, its dinner in the crockpot and Hallmark Channel movies.

Anyone else feeling a little blah??

Wednesday, September 19, 2018

If I had a nickel..

If I had a nickel for every time I thought about making a post, I would be rich.But it is always at the times where I can't. Not to mention that our computer died, so I'm trying to figure out to maintain it without one. Tablets and phones just aren't great for blogging. There really aren't any really great apps. But, I've caught a few minutes, so, here is an update on where we are...


We are pretty settled... Our year anniversary is coming up next month. I don't know how a whole year has passed so fast. Life just goes on every day, no matter what, doesn't it?

Our jobs are good. Holding steady and changing all at the same time. Next week, I begin to work from home some. Which just strengthens my desire to eventually be a stay at home mom. I never thought I would want that. But, I do. Its a goal we are working towards... and on that note..


No... we aren't pregnant.... We actually aren't even trying right now. I had a small out  patient surgery in July, to treat a hyperplasia. Its not cancer, but its what can turn to uterine cancer if not treated. So, we are taking 6 months to treat it. We are 1 month in to the treatment. We are very hopeful that this will be successful and that at the end of the 6 months we can begin trying for a baby again.

On the upside, this time has allowed me to get a stronger handle on my health. I have lost almost 20 lbs. That last pound is hanging on for all its worth. Twenty pounds is my first goal. It has also allowed me to come off almost all my medications, and the one that is left, has reduced its dose by half. I feel better than I have in years.

We are looking forward to all things fall... football, cooler weather, pumpkins, and all our fall adventures.

What do you like best about Autumn?

Tuesday, May 22, 2018

Infertility Battle: The Beginning


Lots of people know about my journey with Fibromyalgia. But what a lot of people don't know about is that I have struggled with infertility as well. It has been something that has been a battle since I was 23 years old. There have been so many wishful moments, followed by sad moments, and stressful moments.


When I met Steven, and we first started dating, I made it clear to him that before things got too serious, he needed to know that I struggled with infertility and that biological children may not be possible for me, and that if he thought about being serious with me, he needed to think really long and hard about that. Being the man that he is, he said pretty much said he loved me and not my ability to have or not have children, and that there are plenty of children who need homes and people who will love them. Bless him.


As soon as we got married, we began our battle with infertility together. I am older than Steven by about 12 years so, according to our doctor, our years left to try to conceive are dwindling... or rather, my years... Steven has plenty.


What we are up against is the condition called PCOS. Poly Cystic Ovarian Syndrome. All these tiny cysts form on my ovaries, preventing an egg from being released. It prevents ovulation. No ovulation, no pregnancy, no menstrual cycles. Its a mess. My hormones are a mess. I also have Endometriosis. Which in a nutshell makes when I do have a menstrual cycle, very painful. I have had 2 surgeries in my early 20s for that. It comes back though.


So long story short, this is what we are battling against.


The upcoming weeks and months are going to be filled with decisions and a lot of hurry up and wait. Its going to be a roller coaster of emotions, and goodness help us, emotions.


But, this is part of our Happily Ever After story. And we are living day to day in it. Some days good, some days bad, but always loving each other.





Wednesday, February 7, 2018

Moments


I have thought the last few days in the direction of where I wanted to take my blog. What did I want focus on in my writing? Did I even want to write anymore?  There are a few topics that come to mind, and they are all part of my life, and any given day, the focus changes. I could talk about our focus to get out of debt, my struggles with Fibromyalgia, PCOS, and migraines,  or just being newlyweds and our day to day life, like when we stay home and eat dinner on the couch and watch Law and Order: SVU.


I really don't know that there will be one solid focus. I just would like to be more consistent in posting. I think of topics, but it seems to be when I am driving or right before I fall to sleep, and within a few moments, they are forgotten.


So, here is an update on where we are now, and maybe I can use this as a place to jump from in the future...


Steven and I have settled into a nice routine of  married life. The week is filled with work, house work and things of that sort. We have enjoyed some weekend "dates" of walking the antique stores. It is one of our favorite things to do. Sometimes we just stay home and nap and watch movies. We are probably the oldest young people I know. But we love to just be at home with our pups. Funny how things change.


Steven is almost done with his apprenticeship, and we are excited to see where that will lead him in a few months. If only I could talk him into attending the graduation. He has worked hard and I wish that he would go and celebrate his accomplishment. Either way, there will be celebrations here at home for him.


I am still working at the same place. Almost 3 years now. I like my job and the people there. Dealing with the constant pain and fatigue of Fibromyalgia is exhausting. Mentally and physically. It's also hard when you feel like a burden to people or that they are tired of hearing that you don't feel well, or that you have to cancel plans, again. I've pretty much gotten to the point where I don't make a lot of plans out of fear that I will have to cancel them. If you ask how I feel, I will say, "fine." This is my norm. I am so jealous of those who have boundless energy and truly have their health. But I am also thankful that I can still work, and I have joys in my life. I have picked back up on my reading and I hope to add some other type of hobby as well, just have to figure out how to either knit or crochet.


Our families are overall well, we are loved and we love them.


What topics would you like to see from this blog? I would love to hear from you!

Monday, January 1, 2018

#GoalDigger

I used to make New Year's resolutions every year. Go to the gym, lose weight, eat healthy, etc. However, I gave that up many years ago. I think it sets up really high expectations for yourself and then, if you can not keep up the resolution, then it can set up feelings of defeat or failure. 

This year I gave myself a goal...not a resolution. My goal is to take better care of myself. I'm not going to say, "oh, I'm going to lose 30 pounds" or "I'm only going to eat healthy"...because ya'll, that does not work for me. But what I can say is, "I'm going to put myself first over some things and take care of myself." 

This wasn't a decision that I came to easily. I thought about it for weeks. I thought about if I could really commit to taking care of myself. The last couple of years, I haven't really done that. I put things ahead of what I needed to do for myself. 

So, 2018, is about taking care of myself. I've already begun easing out of some of the responsibilities that had my focus elsewhere, and that caused me stress. I'm looking forward to trying out some new things that I've been interested in as far as hobbies, and picking up old hobbies that I love, like reading, again. 

I think 2018 is going to be a very interesting year for our little family!